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Part Two:

Exercise Open Communication: If you practice assertive, open communication you become a facilitator of communication and you are understood. If you give partial messages then it is open to interpretation and then your needs are not being met. If you are saying what you feel and what you want openly and from the heart, it makes it easier to receive and accept. When there is doubt in your communication, confusion can result.

Create space: If you feel overwhelmed with work/relationships or in communication, simply distance yourself a little. This will create space for you to reflect, ponder and feel engaged in the situation. Many people that are kinaesthetic need time to come on board, with ideas, conversation, decision making. So if you need space, then let the other person know you are thinking about it and you will get back to them. You are in control of your decisions and thoughts.

Be Kind to yourself: Do not expect to be there for everybody, you are not a rescuer. Give yourself a little slack (nautical terms) to absorb the situation and be kind to yourself if it doesn’t work out. That is ok, if it doesn’t work, don’t force the issue, it’s not meant to be, and try something else. You just need to be more creative to find a solution and it will come. This builds patience and tolerance.

Don’t feel guilty: If you have created some personal boundaries and it doesn’t feel right then, say to yourself that having a boundary is not a rejection, it’s not black and white. Just see it as a shade of grey and respect that you have taken care of yourself in the process so you can focus on what is important to you and not be drawn into another person’s energy which you know will exhaust you. It doesn’t mean you don’t care. Actually you care so much you have been giving all this time and now you need to take care of you.

Be the person you want to be: If you have been the go to person your friends ring to get support and advice and you are feeling drained in the process, then change your habits. You are attracting these needy people, so become the empowered person you want to be and soon you will attract similar minded people.

If you would like to work with a Success Coach to facilitate some of these strategies and or would like to focus on creating some boundaries, please come and visit us at http://www.borntosucceed.com.au/